If I am near Tip, and hear the thunder, there is a split second in which I can catch her attention, and encourage her to make a different choice ?to go to the safety of her house. If I miss that chance, she抯 gone.
You may be thinking, 揅ute story but what does this have to do with me??
Let抯 have a quick look at how the brain works ?in dogs and in you.
My black and white Border Collie, Tip, catapults from her slumber, ears laid tight against her head, and she抯 off, full tilt, as fast as her legs will take her. Where is she going? She doesn抰 know. She抯 scared and she is just running Yves saint Laurent shoes.
The intense sound of the thunder is a nerve message that goes to Tip抯 brain. Her brain stem, the most primal part of her brain, receives the stimuli and determines that this loud sound could be a threat to her safety. A threat causes fear, and the brain stem instantaneously overrides all other brain systems and directs her body to do one of three things ?fight, flight, or freeze. In Tip抯 case, it抯 flight. Is she really in danger of losing life or limb? Not a chance, but her brain doesn抰 know that.
CRACK, rumble, rumble, rumble. Use your imagination folks. That抯 thunder, not a malfunction of my keyboard.
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Does she have a safe place at home? Absolutely. She has a nice dog house that she uses for protection from the rain, snow, and coyotes that venture too close to the yard. But when there is thunder, she runs blindly. She is an incredibly intelligent dog, but under these circumstances, the expression 揳s dumb as a sack of hoe handles?comes to mind.
You are a human. You have fears. They show themselves as: anger, defensiveness, frustration, or a need to be right. The reactions are not healthy for you or your relationships Cheap Nike Air Max BW.
Dog Noodle Notes (about Tip抯 brain)
I know this happens for you because the 揻ear?and 搑eaction mode?happens for me.
2. In that moment, STOP! Take a deep breath ?or ten. This gives the stimulus enough time to be accepted by your rational cortex. Think about your reactive responses in the past to the same or similar experiences. Were you happy with the consequences and the effect on your relationships? Do you want that to happen again?
As a human, you have the same primal brain stem and it works exactly the same as Tip抯. When you are hurt or frightened (physically, emotionally, or mentally), a message goes to your brain stem, the threat is recognized, fear is created, and you move into the same mode ?fight, flight, or freeze. You lash out at yourself or others physically or verbally, cry, pout, become argumentative or defensive. You run, or at least leave. You retreat to your own space, and are unable to do anything constructive. You do and say things that you wish you hadn抰, and the consequences of your reactions, over time, can completely destroy your relationships.
Why does this occur?
4 Steps to Use Fears as Friends
Am I this way to customers or friends? No way! I take it out on those closest to me ?my wife Carol, my sons Jamie and Brad, or other family members, even though they may not have had anything to do with my fear.
1. Notice that feeling of fear, disappointment, discouragement, hurt, or anger. It may be: tenseness of muscles, heat, perspiration, scowling, tears, clenched fists, rapid heartbeat, and lack of focus. These are some cues to let you know that fear is present.
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People Noodle Notes (about your brain)
Here\’s how.
What is my reaction? Because of my personality style, I retreat, become aloof, and lose myself in my work. I become sarcastic and abrupt.
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4. Choose and Act!!
How can you benefit from this knowledge?
The truth is this: you are the captain of your ship! You are accountable for everything that happens in your life. You always have the power to make a choice – ALWAYS. And ultimately, not making a choice is still a choice.
These are basic, not necessarily simple:
You know that relationships are vitally important. Treat them with care. Genuine happiness is impossible without them. Don抰 be a thunder dog!
Use the fears as friends and follow the steps above. You will notice a dramatic improvement in your self-esteem and self-confidence. Watch your personal and business relationships soar.
Does a similar reaction happen for you? Something happens in your life (the something rhymes with 搃t?, and you jump to reaction mode, as if on autopilot? You know what I抦 talking about: angry outbursts, sarcasm, rudeness, aloofness, running away, or retreat. It doesn抰 make logical sense, and it doesn抰 get you the results you want, but you do it anyway. You are an intelligent human being, and yet, it still happens.
Ponder this.
Just like Tip, there is a split second in which I have the ability to let the message move past the brain stem to the cortex of my brain, which is the logical and spiritual part of my brain. The cortex processes the message, considers consequences, alternatives, feelings, and allows me to make a different choice for myself and others wubags.
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